Saturday, April 29, 2006

Resolve

RESOLVE: Salmon Pink and Lavender are the colors of the season.

Friday, April 28, 2006

The One You've Been Waiting For... NY Update and Other Stuff

Table of Contents

-A funny story about the kids I babysitt
-My Trip to NY
-Graduation Update
-Random Stuff
-The BG Fashion Show/McDonalds



The Kids I Babysitt

I babysatt on Tuesday of last week and I noticed that one of the twins was missing her two front teeth. The converstation goes as follows

Me: Elizabeth...did you loose your two front teeth?
Elizabeth: Yeah... I had to get them pulled.
Me: Why...what happened?
Elizabeth: Well, I fell on the sidewalk in front of P.F. Changs and I chiped them so I had to get them pulled.
Me: Awww, thats awful.
Elizabeth: Did you loose a tooth??
Me: Uh, no...why?
Elizabteth: Your missing a tooth in the front.
Me: No, Im not.
Elizabeth: Yes you are... did you fall???
Me: No Elizabeth, I have a gap.
Elizabeth: It looks like you lost a tooth...are you sure you didnt loose a tooth??
Me: Yes Dear, Im sure...I just have a gap.
Elizabeth: Oh......right.

I think kids are the most ammusing creatures ever. Just to hear this little girl talk about getting her teeth pulled as if it was a routine incident and she knew all about typical dentistry at 3 years old, had my dying. Now, most of you know that Im not at all ashamed of my gap and actually embrace it. I smile widely with pride in pictures and even have plans to adorn it with three pink saphires when I get my Grill ( Smile for me Mami!!!) I mean...whats not to love, If I were a resident of Ethiopia I would be the sexiest girl their! Now I know you may be saying...."Cassandra....this is America! And though you may be proud of your gap that can fit rice grains horizontally...you should invest in a row of braces!" My responce............Fuck You!

Have a nice day!


My Trip to NY

NY... do I need to say again just how grand it is???? I dont think so. Just to make this brief I will let you know that certain constants are at play. NY is fab, Julee Wilson is fab, and I am moving when I graduate. I arrived on Thursday and chilled with friends and family in the Bronx, Friday evening I met up with Julee and Jenn Coles and went over to the Rolodex party. About 100 people from the fashion industry mingled amongst each other if the a lovely little Harlem Museum/Coffee Shope with Live music, bubbly flowing and the fashionable and fab all around. Me... I was posted up. I have to admit...that many fly ass, successful black people in one room left me dumbfounded and nervous. I wasnt sure just how to approach them and would have rather worn a sign that said...I need a job...PLEASE HELP. I met everyone from buyers for Saks, Lord and Taylor, Bloomingdales, to stylist for Eve, Alicia Keys, and many more. Personalities and Gay men were of no shortage and I had to do nothing but sit back and marvel at the work of my dear soror Julee! Her and a her friend with the most fab name ever( Zandile pronounced Zan di lay) hosted this grand event and should be commened/featured in Essence and WWD for just plain fabulosity and having thought of such a good idea. I had fun and found a buddy my age and after a while we started tag teaming people and getting info to direct us. I left with a number of numbers and interest and had a great time! We retired to Julees and Jenns apt and rested. Talk about a nice apt...Its no penthouse but I would LOVE to graduate into a crib like that. It shows the hard work of my friends and the progressive type of women they are! Magazines galore, spirits, good music, and a plethera of perfumes littered the house in a tidy yet lived in way and made me want to move on in. Jenn gave me the spare key on Saturday when I stepped out to walk the Harlem Streets for a bit and as I returned I have to admit that I pretended I was coming home to my own fly ass place in Harlem after an exahusting day of deciding what denims SAKS will sell this spring. Back to reality. I had a great time ! Dispite the rain that fell heavily that weekend I went downtown on Sunday and went to church with Jenn. The Abbysininan Baptist Church got down just like I like it. Old and young black people, a sermon that encouraged me and a choir that tried to bring the house down, I enjoyed it. Apparenlty this church the oldest in Harlem gets visitors from P. Diddy, to Mariah Cary, to Michael Eric Dyson, to Andre Leon Tally! Totally worth it!! I really appreciate Jenn inviting me!
After church I went downtown and shopped a bit while handling business. If youve never been then consider yourself an unfortunat case. Macy's Shoe Department is Bananas! I stayed there for about 3 hours trying on shoes and talking to Erin. I found my graduation shoes and hope that I dont fall down the stairs after I shake hand with the Prez! Of course their gold and of course theyre high heeled and will I look good..... you do the math.

I left early monday morning and made the long and sad treck back to Richmond. Gracious...It wont be long now before Im on my way to NY for good!

Graduation

Im still graduating, Im still excited, and The party is officially on. The Invitations have been sent, the favors have arrived, the decore has been set, the menue is chosen(trust its gonna be scrumpdelicious...I went back to my heritage on this one) and most importantly...I have my fly ass dress, shoes and a BOSSY ASS cocktail ring! Check on it!


Random Stuff

Im really getting tired of these end of the year formailities. It seems that these things bring out the truth in people. Id rather just peace and holler at you only if I feel like it than have you make a big fuss when the truth is you dont give a shit! I keep having these interesting conversaitions with friends about who would be our brides maides if we were getting married. I think that unless this person knows that you have met someone, like them alot, went on a second date, met some of his friends, can call and get him whenever, had orgasmic relations with him, met his parents, met other family members, and had the what if we get married covo then, then they dont need to be a brides maide. Now I know... those arent all the components of a successful relationship but they do lend themselves to other important topics like trust, happyness, and signs of a healthy relationship with GOD! Forgett trying to avoid people getting upset because they arent in the wedding....if they cant be happy for you enough to fall back and enjoy the wedding then they need to not even come. Talking with my friend who wants to have a small wedding and a larger reception I realized just how sacred the marriage ceremony is! That is a very spiritual and sacred time when you and your boo exchange vowes. THAT IS SERIOUS BUSINESS!!! You have to articulate all of your emotions and love at that time to declare and profess your love for them in the sight and with the blessing of GOD. Nothing to take lightly. Nothing to turn into a status show, and definately nothing to have bad energy present for! Please belive there are about 4 of my good friends that will be my brides maides and no more.


BG Fashion Show/ McDonalds

Andrea and I ( my rolli) went to the Beta Gamma Fashion Show. We got there kinda late but caught the tail end of it.....literally. We arrived just in time for the lingeri section and saw so much ass and tits you would have thought it was a strip joint. I dont know how these girls get up there and do it but they bare all. I could never walk across campus again knowing that everyones seen my ass. There were far to many girls and not enough men though Todd stole the show. As Todd progressed down the runway, we watched his ass greased up chest . When he got to the end he unsnapped the sides of what seemed to be a pair of read draws ( yeah....draws) He proceeded to reach down into his pants and eject the red satin number from between his legs and wave it in the air. His female companion then joined him to rubb on his chest and be groped by him. At this point all the men sitting in front of us had turned their heads to the back of the room for fear of being exposed to something they didnt want any parts of. I however paid very close attention, I mean I knew I would have to report this in my blog and that requires accurate attention to details. The show was fun and it was great to marvel at the splendor of an HBCU.

After the show Andrea and I headed over to the local McDonalds for a late dinner. I headed to the rest room before ordering and when I exited proceeded to the counter. A strange person...slightly indiscriminantly gendered eyed me. I being the indecisive person took a few minutes to figure out what I would like to eat. This person assured me that it was ok and I could take as much time as I wanted. Though there were two other ladies present behind registers when I was ready...she insisted that she help me and proceeded to take my order from the wrong side of the counter. She then raced to the other side and said..."I will help you even though Im not on the clock anymore" Errrrrrrrr Not logged in to a register she booted the girl beside her from her register and asked me what I would like. Still deciding I gazed at the menue board and scratched my head tossing my hair in my typical University of Richmond Girl way. She interupted my decision making to stop my from playing with my hair..." Please dont do that ...It drives me crazy!" At this point...Im looking for Andrea because she should have warned me and I was hoping she was standing by the nearest exit. Nope...her ass is sitting down as if this was D-hall and we had all night to spend. I order and proceed to the drink bar to realize that she hadnt give me my cup. The boss catches wind and ask shim loudly...."WHAT THE HELL WRONG WITCHU" To make up for the her mistake she gives me two cups. I scurry off to my table quickly and realize that she didnt give me any sauce for my nuggets or ketchup. At this point...Im not interested in any further converstation with what seems to by a female. I summon over a guy that is an attractive blend of Nelly (Grill included) and LL Cool J and ask if he could do us the favor of getting some condiments so that we dont get further harrassed by the crazy gay girl. " Oh dont worr bout it...I gotchu" was his responce. Andrea and I laughed about the situation and tried to eat as fast as we could. We scurried out of there and got on the highway back to Richmond. Always an interesting time in Petersburg.

Thats the deal, thats the update... PEACE!!!!!!!!

Tuesday, April 11, 2006

CassandraGarnett: I'm going to her rolodex party on the 21st
ShoeGal322: NICE!
CassandraGarnett: I'm bringing 50 copies of my resume
CassandraGarnett: hahaha
ShoeGal322: lol...That's a good idea
CassandraGarnett: just kidding
ShoeGal322: resume on pink scented paper
CassandraGarnett: lmao
CassandraGarnett: no....
CassandraGarnett: argyle print
CassandraGarnett: lol
ShoeGal322: omigosh - lol...u and ur argyle
CassandraGarnett: :-D
ShoeGal322: maybe u could do argyle in rhinestone on ur face - (ur ringdance idea)CassandraGarnett: LMOA OMG
ShoeGal322: :-P
CassandraGarnett: >:o
CassandraGarnett: Erin...
ShoeGal322: I'm laughing too - remembering how effing serious you were about that
CassandraGarnett: don't front you know your gonna do that at your wedding!
ShoeGal322: o yes...
CassandraGarnett: It was a good idea!
CassandraGarnett: it still is!
CassandraGarnett: watch
CassandraGarnett: you'll see it somewhere!
ShoeGal322: lets just say don't add that idea to your resume

An excerpt from a convo with my Soror and dear friend Erin Bagly!!!! That bought on a laugh that you just cant express through emoticons and phrases like "LMAO" . I miss the class of 05 so much! They kept me sane and I love talking with them. Sam sent me a link to this survey that determines which Flavor of Love girl you are....I'm Hottie....don't ask....but it had me dying and I had to put it in the profile for others to enjoy! She gave me a good pep talk the other day about the whole job search thing. In my industry...you just don't report to the CDC for an interview in February, its much more difficult than that. No diss to others but, I just wish it were more simple but I'm waiting patiently and saying my prayers like the God fearing Young Women I am.


I'm going to Julees rolodex party and I'm so excited! I know I'm gonna meet some really interesting and intelligent people in the industry and I'm ready to learn. Beyond that I'm gonna get to chill with THE JULEE WILSON! She's a celeb in my book so don't hate on the capitalization... pray you make it to that status!

I don't know what to say my friends who have graduated either have some real sympathy for my sorry little behind or they are just true friends. I went to The Funny Bone with Erica on Friday night and saw Bill Belemy. He was hilarious and so was the drunk white lady who was reverting to her college days. She of course was wasted and got called up to the stage. Margauex... her name was... was celebrating a birthday and was clearly getting loose. As her friends took pictures with their phones of her trying to back it up on the opening act Erica and I laughed. Erica is definitely my homie. If I want the real...I can always get it from her. She will always tell me when I'm headed on a road to getting played. Her favorite term ...." You aint gon end up with nuthin but a dick in yo mouth!" gives me those oh so comforting warning signs of when I may want to rethink something. Friday she was telling me the deal on managing my finances. I appreciate it though cause she's really good with money and saving. In her free spirited/ unabashed way she takes care of business and has a plan set up for everything. She's thought it over...Contemplated the pros and cons... gotten second opinions and handles her business like the grown ass women she is. I respect that...there are so many things I respect about my graduates...they really set an example for me while allowing me to be myself and do me. I don't feel like I need to conform or convert to any way of mind around them and I really feel like they like me for me rather then what they think they know about me or the way I look. (even though Erica thought I smoked weed because I was from Highland Park........... we got over that, and now were great friends! )

I hate to seem like such a groupie for my friends that have graduated but they are really doing the damn thing!!! Two are working on senatorial campaigns, two are cheer leaders for NFL teams( while holding serious jobs) Three are in law school, one teaches... is engaged ...and owns her own home, one works for one of the leading women's magazines and was just promoted on a job she's only been on for a year or so, and the other works a real damn job telling other people how to keep their shit tight.... I mean...who wouldn't aspire to follow the pathes these ladies have made.

All I wanna do is add one more path for my friends that are underclasswomen to follow. If you want a career in the arts/ fashion...go for it, don't let your environment or the mediocrity that everyone else settles for dictate what you choose for yourself.

Smooches

Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Disclaimer

I was looking at my last post and I must have been on that cheap crack! I didnt even finish the last sentance and will someone beat me over the head with a grammer book because I was speaking like an 8th grader on black planet! I was really tired though and I just wanted to drop a few lines so thats my disclaimer!


I had a convo with my teacher today and I got the thinking about what I write in my blog. I stand by all my words. They are the truth about how I feel about things and I stand by my words no matter how outrageous, harsh, misspelled, grammatically incorrect or just plain wrong they are. Im young and someday I'll look back and say "What the hell was my point??" or "Thats a really silly way to look at ___________". I dont wanna waste time thinking about who feels what about what I say, I wanna be young and free and foolish and YES close minded!!!

That only means I have room to grow and mature and become open minded about things and thats far far better than growing up way too fast.

So There!

Thursday, March 30, 2006

Hmmmmm

This week has been like hell week. I am proud to say that of all the things I had to get done I have done most of them in a timely and satisfying period. Between NGOMA and Ivy Week...I've been running back and forth between supporting my Sorors and Dancing my heart out!

Im tired and all I wanna do is crawl into bed and read the April HARPERS. I finally got a few of them April mags....Im so behind but I've been so busy I haven't even had time to have my usualy montly Barnes and Noble trip with my homie Grace!

I kinda went off in my last blog but I hold true to everything I said. Everyone wants you to satisfy them first until they are full/done then you can use whatevers left for yourself. Im done with that kind of behavior. Im really all all alll about me these days and doing what I said/really want to do. I really need to go to bed but I've got tons of cleaning to do and an appointment with Joe Testanie at the Career Development Center in the AMthat I need to prepare for. I have to admit...Joe Testani could very well get it, I wouldn't mind making it my job to give it to him either! But you didn't read that here (smiles) I hope he helps me find a job b/c there has got to be more to life than the average job with the average pay and the average cubicle, and subsequently your whole being becomes average and average is the farthest thing from FABULOUS!


IM about to hit up the s

Sunday, March 26, 2006

Seems the closer I get to Graduation the more real life gets. Times are hard yall and I'm really just trying to maintain.

Last night I had a dream that my Mom called and told me that my Uncle had past away. He's been in the hospital for about 3 weeks now and I'm just getting to speak with him. He said he feels better than when he came in but he has no appetite therefore is not eating therefore feels weak. I remember hearing the words come out of my Moms mouth and crying in my dream. I was so upset I kinda woke up disturbed. I was glad to hear he was doing well though cause I really need him to be around. My Uncle takes care of my sister and my sister isn't in her best state either. She too is sick and really needs someone to be there with her. My Uncle is the type that says what's on his mind and tells the truth which many people cant take or refuse to take, so he's not at the top of the family totem pole. He's up there though, cause at the end of the day he's telling the truth weather you wanna believe or not. But you know how it is when you wanna do what you wanna do and don't want anybody telling you your not doing the right thing. I'm so glad he's doing better though and I hope that they let him come home soon cause I really would rather him be at home than in the hospital.

My family hasn't ever experienced death really and I don't know how I could take another death in my family. The other thing is I hate to make it so selfish. Its not really about how I could take another death or what effects it would have on me or any of that, cause the truth of the matter is the loss wouldn't be in if I couldn't graduate cause I needed time to get over it, or if anything else in my life went array because of a death. No the loss would be in loosing my uncle who has guided me and acted as a father in the absence of my own. Yeah yall this is when life gets real and all this shit about what to wear, or being too busy, or why I permed my hair, or whose mad at who, or how many hours I work, or whose dating who, who I'm dating or not dating, if so and so calls me back, and if my friend is upset over blah blah and blah.......... and whose drama is going on and which teacher is tripping, and trying to figure out what the hell is wrong with so and so, and why the hell they gotta do things the way they do, and who I have to satisfy this time, and who thinks I'm a BITCH, and trying to be nicer and trying to be more approachable, and not cursing so much, and trying to be sensitive to people because EVERYBODY CANT TAKE MY ATTITUDE... and all that shit goes right out the damn window. And it pisses me the hell off to think that I let all that shit cloud my vision, distract me, or even become the slightest bit of important. That's the thing that I hate about college because its the farthest thing from real life. Its a fucking circle of lame ass people who don't have the gotdamn sense enough to know that life is much bigger than these issues and we all just have to walk around fronting like were the hottest shit on earth and cant have humility and compassion for one another...not just when were down but when were up too!!!! For every good person there's someone better!!!! We cant celebrate our individuality we have to gage ourselves on what everyone else is doin. This shit is so wack!!!!

The closer Graduation gets the more I see that life is real. Your real friends emerge and the ones that aint about shit become more and more hazy so that in the end you cant even find them when you remember them. The more I see how needy this environment makes us...how needy we are of each other and things and people and relationships to allow us to grasp some sort of identity and being. What do you have? Who do you know? What are you doing? What do I have? What do I know? Where am I going? All this tit for tat shit has got to go... I'm so tired of dealing with people who don't have an original thought in their damn minds. I mean... once we get out of here what the hell are you gonna do if you aint got nobody to bite/lean/depend/rely on???????? I know....your gonna find another group of people to validate yourself with. And I do it too... totally not exempt from this whole rant about weak ass minds cause I find my self in that same lame ass spot sometime.


The closer Graduation gets the more I see life is real... I had to do my loan exit interview for financial aid and I was like WTF????? I have a couple thousand dollars to pay back and that shit is about as real as real can get. Especially for a graduate who finally realizes that the glamorous life takes a good ten years to achieve! No matter who the hell your Momma and Daddy know or whose Law/Grad school you end up in! Please...cause your gonna be sitting in somebody's class SHOOK cause the SOCRATIC METHOD IS COMING FOR THAT ASS...and long gone are the days of BS'ing your way through a 50 min class only to repeat the things your teacher said to you in class just days earlier in the 5-7pg paper that you got an extension on cause you had too much other stuff to do.

The closer Graduation gets the more I see life is real cause this right to passage comes with rules that apply all along but don't get enforced until May 14,2006 or May 13, 2007 or May 11, 2008 ! Like saying I DON'T KNOW....People THAT IS NOT AN ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If you don't know state your means of finding out!!! At some point you gotta take some responsibility and make a way of your own!!! Letting somebody else pick up the the pieces is no longer acceptable.


The closer Graduation gets the more I see life is real... so I feel like living it up because when you think about all the stuff I've been talking about, College is the only place that this foolishness can take place. When you get out there its hard work and catching a good time or a good laugh when you can....cause otherwise you got things to do and life to handle and ultimately A God to satisfy and many things much bigger than anything, anything, anything that's going on around campus.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006

Spring Break Wrap Up....Glad thats over!

You've heard about her before but I had to dedicate this one to Sam. God....it we lived in Meideval times Sam would be a jesture or something... the girl is just funny all around. I still laugh out loud at some of the jokes she makes and Im soo sooo soooo sad that I cant remember them all. I miss my Sam and Erin and Krystal, and Erica and Shannon and especially Jos! They made school so much fun and so bareable.
Anyways, a visit from Sam was just what I needed after the hectice weekend I had. I worked Friday and Saturday and left Richmond very early on Sunday morning to go to Northern VA for my sisters burial. Emotianally Spent..... we spent the better part of Sunday at the Wake wich was hard seeing her. She looked grand as she always does and it was terribly upsetting to know that shes not gonna be around anymore. Her youngest daughter arrived and it was harder to have her in the room. I cant bare to think of what she will do without her Mom. She held up well though and I admired her strength for a 15 year old. I promised Wendy's Mom that I would visit her when I get up to New York. Shes a little old lady that lives in the Bronx and will make a joke at anyones expense. At lunch she leaned over to me and asked me if I had ever seen a Madea movie. I said yes and she said "Doesnt that lady behind us look just like her?" I almost fell out at this 70 year old women talking about people. She was great and I cant wait to get up there and have fun with her. We layed Wendy to rest and Im glad that everything went well and that she can rest in peace.

My sister kept dragging her noisy ass kids around and it was getting on my nerves. I love my niece and nephew but they need to get beatings much more often. They arent really BAD so to speak but they are just little and little kids belong at home until 7 years old.

I was so tired, actually, I am so tired.

I still have so much to do and Im not exactly recovered from the weekend. I hate school and I cannot waite to graduate. I applied for a few jobs and I have an interview coming up on Thursday so wish me luck!!!! Its a pretty good one that I would like to get actually so if all goes according to plan then I will be in the city by the end of May! Of course if thats what God has planned for me! but... we will see Im done with just about everything and cant wait to move on. All I wanna do is change my status on facebook from undergrad to Alumunus and put on my graduation dress(which I bought this past weekend....supercute!) walk across that stage and start packing up the U-Haule cause Im DONZO!!!!

Monday, March 06, 2006

Parents Just Dont Understand!

So today my Mom flipped out on me over a very very unimportant subject. She was in my dorm room chilling with me for a bit while we killed time before she took me to work. I told her before I opened the door

" This aint no museum so dont be lookin all around oggling at everything!"

It was about an hour and a half before she made it over to my bookcase wich has a bit of my dry food items. There beside the oatmeal and excess condiments was my bottle of Apple Smirnoff and a bottle of Long Island Ice Tea Pre-Mixed. She laughed it off and asked me why I had it. My reply was simple, I have a drink every now and again and IM 21 so I can do that!

Much later...at leaste 9 hours later, I get in the car to go home and she starts flipping out on me about being a drunk and acting like the campus drunkards that I always complain about. I must say that I was very much appauled! If you know anything about me you know that I am faarrrrrrr farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr farrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr from a drunk! I may have a drink when Im out at a club or out to dinner with my friends but never ever ever am I drunk, wasted, tipsy, out there, or even exhibiting the slightest bit of intoxication.
I was pissed off at the way she jumped to conclusions about my drinking habits by just seeing a conceled bottle of alchol, that hasent been touched since mid semester FIRST semester!!!! Not sitting on my cup coaster on my desk with the lid off, not turned over on the floor...no just closed and on the shelf up with all the bottles of water. With friends who drank(heavily) in high school, friends who started drinking their freshman year at The Row, and friends who now cant even handle one drink without starting to show signes of unrulyness, I am far from a hazard or anyone that she should be concerned with.

My take is....Im graduationg from The University of Richmond( and yes that may sound snobbish but shit...its a GREAT feat!), I am not pregnant, I work my ass off , and rely on her for very little yet, she still cant give me my props. Whats the deal???

Im sure this is simply some mood swing that she is suffering from but she went on to say that Im gonna learn, the million "Gotdamn" times she told me to wear my hat and gloves and a scarf are gonna come back around and Im gonna learn when Im in the windy streets of New York and that wind hits me!!!! ( I lauged, which fueld her fire, Be serious Ma' hat a gloves???)

Yeah Ma' Im gonna learn, Im gonna learn!!!


I love my Mom with all my heart but parents just dont understand!


Goshhhhhhhhhhhhh

Saturday, March 04, 2006

Wendy Salaam

Today has been one of the most hectic days all semester. I worked from 12-5 and babysatt from 5:30-12. A full 12 hours of work, plus only being limited to breathing out of one nostral and wearing shoes that are sooo sooo cute but hurt sooo sooo much. I thought since they were flats and Enzo that they would be comfortable, but these feel like theyre from Payless! And I can only imagine what types of markes theyve put on my already not so attractive feet. Oh well...


On a much much more serious note, a member of my family has passed. The first for me in terms of being old enough to understand the emotional ramifications. Wendy Salaam, was the daughter of my sisters father and a beautiful and strong women to admire. My three older sisters know her much more than I do since they grew up with her daughter. I however was born subsequently and did not get to enjoy her in all her spledor half as much as they did. A women who never failed to send a christmas present to the often forgotten, slightly darker, addition to the Brown Girl Trio. For some a christmas present doesnt seem like much but in a family of four with one parent( a MOM who works her butt off for her children) a simple present means so much. Beyond being the first person in my family to pass for me, I feel worst...more like SHIT, for not appreciating this women for her kindness the way I should have. After years of presents and cards and well wishes this women this pass year rushed out on Christmas Eve to get me a present when I unexpedetly dropped by her home with my sister , and me being the silly little self diluted egomaniac has yet to send her a thankyou card for the gift she gave me. I even had the audacity to give it away before I had even thanked her for it. I feel like shit..... I hate to think that she has left this earth without knowing how grateful I am for her kindness. I only hope that my prayers go up and out to her as she goes up to heaven.

To think of how hard I am on my Sorors about making sure that they understand how serious this sisterhood thing is, proclaiming that I have this sisterhood thing down pack, when in reality I let one of my own BLOOD sisters slip by without telling her how much I love her and how much she means to me. I feel horrible. In my family there is no such thing as a half sister....Its blood all the way .

It sucks to have this be the realization that nobody is promised tomorrow. All those cliches about dont put off for tomorrow what you can do today are true, theyre not just clever statements for your parents to annoy you with.

Wendy, may you rest in peace, I love you

I might not have ever said it, I might not have ever shown it, but hopefully now you know it.



Peace Yall

Friday, March 03, 2006

Taking A Moment

Since spring break has officially begun, I thought I might take the time to write a few words. Im so glad to have the time to take for myself and to get some work done. Of course theres so much work to be done and one week isnt that much time but at least I dont have to go to classes. Just slanggin those khakis at the GAP and trying to develop an idea into a clothing line...thats what my breaks gonna be about. Hopefully, I'll be able to get up with friends that have crept off my radar for a moment but we will see.

THE S.Dot Clancy is due to visit the U of R next weekend and Im excited, cant wait to get back to the days of yester Rho Mu. I miss my 2005 graduates but Im ready to be a graduate myself. Senior year is the worst and best at the same time and I cant decide if I want to retreat to the comfort of my quint little dorm room or venture out into the oceanic spaces called the real world. I dont know....

Im sick...and it sucks, I think Im gonna shower, takes some meds and watch Wildin Out till I fall asleep. I work all day tomorrow.

Peace

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Rambling on about nothing and everything at the same time

My eye has been twiching for the last two weeks I look crazy...like Im just kidding about everything I say... Im trying to send a secret message to everyone.

According to Mrs. Kennedy...someone is coming to visit me... In the past I would have hoped that it would be Mos Def but Im feeling very Keisha Cole about him..."I changed my mind...I dont love [him] no more!!"


...I hope its my niece thats coming to visit me. She left me the most adorable message on Saturday...

" Hiiii...Hi Aunt Cussaanja...I loooouuuoove you."

My heart melts everytime I play it...my sister in the background coaching her and my nephew in the background cooing.


God...I feel like Im stuck in a class I hate and its a nice day outside and everyone else gets to play outside except me. Like I got blamed for talking in class and it wasnt even me and now the teacher is making me miss recess all because of someone else...but they get to go outside and I have to stay in... and its sooooo nice outside and all I wanna do is have fun ...I mean damn..Can I go play now??

Monday, February 20, 2006

Mos Def Isnt That Cute...I think Im over him

I'll explain later...I need to sort out my feelings

:(

Sunday, February 19, 2006

Valentines Day and other catching up.

I had a really nice valentines day to be valentineless, lol. I basically went out with my sorors to have Thai at our favorite place. We had fun and as usual the food was great! The whole day started off kinda weird and ended up nice though. I heard from a long lost valentine and had a long convo that kinda resulted in a truce and me letting down my "Im done" guard...though Im considering putting it back up for good measure. My "so called" valentine phoned early for good measure and just to bullshit me but I peeped his game and cut it off early and went back to sleep.
I skipped Finite(my first time...no sweat) and decided to sleep in. I figured I'd take the day to do what I needed to do so that I could have more sanity in my life. That's the plan these days...take care of what's important and screw the rest! I guess you could call that my valentines day resolution...one I plan to keep much better than those new years resolutions. I finally got my shirts embroidered and I took care of a few other over due to do's and took the rest of the day easy. Dinner was followed by me skipping Ngoma( yeah I said it....shoot me!). I chilled more...as if I hadn't been chillin all day and did more work... or pretended to be doing work. (kinda like now) I actually enjoyed my day, I rested and took care of myself which is the first step in self love. This years was probably the best valentines day I've had single...( and in some cases attatched)...and though I had to buy my own Ferrero Rocher, they still taste the same and I slept just as nicely alone as with someone.



There goes that single women's bullshit again...Oh well.


The rest of the week flew by... which explains why I'm writing about valentines day on the Sunday following. Work...school...class...its all getting too hectic and I'm having to prioritize like WHOA! Don't get it twisted...I still get my procrastination time up in there.....Oh I know what's important and what can wait until the last possible minute...yall know how I do...always on my own time!



Before I go I have a question.....


Do I look like New York from Flavor of Love????
Flavor Flav is proof that there is a match for everyone in the world!
The way things go these days...shit... I should find out if there's gonna be a season two flave may be my match, I could be his mistress!

Flaaavor Flaaaaaaaaaaaaaavvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, February 05, 2006

"Something New"

February is here and I'm so glad because now I can have a legitimate excuse for being overly excited about Valentines day!!! I know I'm pretty lame but I just love holidays like this! NO... I don't have a valentine but I know I love myself and that's all that matters. Don't get it twisted. I could use one but I'm satisfied with the love I have for myself. (doesn't that sound like some single women bullshit??? ) The plan is to get all dressed up and go out to have drinks and desserts with some sorors on Tuesday and to buy myself some sexy unmentionables and a set of really nice sheets for my valentines night. No guest, just me and my bed and lots of rest. I've also been in better spirits since the first of the month. Who knows why, but I'm getting a lot more done that I have in the last three weeks. Snaps for me!

I calculated with Danielle the other day that there are exactly 10 weeks left in the semester and 10 weeks left in our college careers. A bout of crying hit me last night as I rode back from Ring Dance with Andrea. It was like seeing things from a really mature stance. Hearing Andrea talk all about how Ring Dance was a waste of time and money and wishing that she had kept the $50 she had spent on the six tickets for her parents to come walk her down the stairs, take a picture and pick up a ring. And though I could have told her this, considering how quickly My Mom, Dwight and I left after I did that whole jig last year, made me feel really old. I teared up in the car on the way to Wendy's but was met with an unfriendly tone from Andrea, who "Wooohooo"ed me and kept it moving.

I had a lovely day today out with my girls, Tonia and Danielle Torain. Tonia's my Homie but Danielle has been a good friend since freshman year-ish. Always sweet, always sensible and just plain lovely to be around. After seeing "Something New" with them earlier (the second time for me) we discussed dating white men. Sanaa definitely had her reservations in the movie as she was presented with Brian, but he did have his attributes of fine-ness. Not to spoil the movie but he was working it, I mean he was painting toe nails, snuggling, APOLOGIZING, I was like Damn! Can I get one of those in Black???? LOL .... Anyway... We discussed it on our way to Carytown. Tonia bought up the point that white men have pink nipples ( and wewe's Danielle noted) which is a good point, but if he can apologize and speak his mind at the same time without bearing the weight of the world on his shoulders than I have to give credit where credit is due. Maybe that's the way it should be. Since black men and women usually have to deal with so much to make it through life, maybe black women should date white men? I mean, some of our brothers have already figured this out, especially our brothers at the University of Richmond. Maybe two people treading so heavily through life being black in a white world aren't meant to me together. Its sort of a double negative maybe? Long story short.... Its open season on the brothers of Sigma Alpha Epsilon OKAY!!!! Forget the Cherry Lounge, 534, and all these Greek Parties..... I'm going to the Lodges next weekend. Let me get my best flip flops, halter top and denim skirt together.... Maybe I will have a valentine after all.

Smooches

Sunday, January 29, 2006

Destiny's Child

So, as usual, there is way too much going on. Oddly enough there really isnt anything going on at all. All I know is Im busy and I would rather be in New York. Which translate to theres nothing new going on with me. Im getting adjusted to classes finally this third week and they all seem mostly cool. Finite Math, Textile Design, Urban Practice and Policy Major Seminar, Honors Thesis( A Bitch), & Interdiciplinary Studies Thesis. All cool classes for the most part. Honors Thesis is gonna kick my ass. My advisor told me a few weeks ago...
" Yeah, I know spring semester for seniors is supposed to be a piece of cake but for you, not so much. I mean, you will have fun, but not until like the last three weeks. Your work could really send you somewhere but you have to put the work in and I believe you can do it. You just have to become a Nun for the next 6 weeks or so. Or 10 weeks or so. "

Im glad to hear that he has confidence in me but I am suffering from a serious case of senioritis. I have never slept so much in my life. I cant seem to figure out whats going on with me but I really want to get it together. The worse part is that there are signs every damn where saying "Cassandra now is not the time to be lazy!" Between my Mom, and Sisters... Gosh. Take my hororscope in Harpers for example.

"Midmonth you will be offered a career change(YAY); exercise your independence, and don't wait for others to join you in your new adventure(CAN THE CHURCH SAY AMEN) If you get down to business, those travel plans in the near future may be more possible than you thought.( I.E. NEW YORK) And by attending to your professional life now(YES MOM, GOSH) , you will soon have the leisure time to mend a romance and make it even better than before. (I.E. NO VALENTINES DAY WEEKEND GETAWAY)"

I mean, its plain as day, printed in black and white, page 60 of Harpers Bazaar, which is the next best thing to the BIBLE!

I was watching Pastor Lance Watson of St. Pauls Church from bed on last Sunday(cause getting up before 10 is alot to ask of me) The sermon was all about Gods Favor and its effects on your life and those around you. He also talked about how we think that just because things are not changing the way we want them to change, their isnt any change going on and that God is never idle, HE'S ALWAYS UP TO SOMETHING.

The way I see it... God meant for the February Issue of Harpers Bazaar to come to me. He is fully aware that each month I cant function without the latest issue of my fav magazines. They inspire me, they keep me company(I know Im lame), and they give me something to look forward to every month. So I figure, its not the fact that my birthday is June 12th and Im a Gemini that made me get that message, that was just the way God chose to send it to me, so that I would hear it.

So maybe next year this time when Im reading Harpers again, I'll be in NYC (with a man apparently) living the life that Im destined to. Sounds good doesnt it. I'll try to step up my school and employment game so that I dont risk deferring from my dream. Pray for me yall!!

Off to ensure the fulfillment of my destiny

Smooches

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Hyperlink

So I went to Hyperlink with Tonia on this past Sunday..... yes, I went to a club on a Sunday, just like a real New Yorker. Actually the occasion was Freedom Classic, so Richmond was on and poppin... or at least on if not actually poppin. Plus no classes on Mondays or Fridays allows for extravagant weekend shenanigans. We had a cool night and the music was mostly good except for the bad speakers. Common was present and we got a good view of his sexy self! I danced so much, which isn't normal for me but since I'm not pressed out right now, I was going for broke. I keep reflecting on the fact that this is my last semester and for that reason I better live it up ! As I danced a guy protected by the darkness that is night clubs reached out through my circle and grabbed my hand. Now I'm not one to roll my eyes and suck my teeth, rather I would rather just say that I'm not interested or that I have a boyfriend in order to let a guy down easy. I'm not a fan of being a bitch to complete strangers, so I heard him out. " Owwww girl you so beautiful.... take my number..."( he pulls a card out of his pocket) Now at this point I can see that he's not the slightest bit attractive and from what my group is telling me by their looks, not ignoring him was a bad idea. He went on to say".... You so beautiful, take my number so I can take you shopping at Old Navy."





At first I was ultra pissed. I thought ...what the hell????? He could have at least lied and said some other store like Express or damn Dillards. I mean, what about me made him think I wanted to shop at Old Navy. I was not wearing a performance fleece or a graphic tee like some of the other skeet skeets present. Nothing against Old Navy, its in the Gap Inc. brand family but damn. And not to mention, I work at GAP so I can get a 20% discount any time I want dammit. It kinda hit my confidence. I mean, a lame is gonna invite me to have a shopping spree at Old Navy. Why didn't he just say Cato, or Fashion Bug.... Damn, Am I just a silly little self deluded girl thinking I'm something I'm not. I thought I deserved better, I thought was worth more. Not more money, or a better quality store but more value. I'm not sure what I want in a man but I don't want one who isn't willing to give me the best there is. My man doesn't have to be rich and buy my me $200 denims or anything like that but if Old Navy is all my man can afford..... don't make that your selling point. Gosh!

Sunday, January 15, 2006

Recap, December 10th to now.

No blog in over a month!!!! I should be ashamed of myself. I know Sam is board out of her mind and all of you other folks who would rather not let on that you read Beautifully Deep are done with me and my silly antics.

But alas, I have returned and I have lots to blog about. I decided that I would separate them instead of doing one big one just so that its manageable for both me and my anonymous readers. Look forward to reading about the following events in the ab fab life of a Pretty Fashionista.

1. Hyperlink 1/15/06
2. The Cherry Lounge/Vivian Green/ and hanging out with Erica
3. A stretch of very haneouse days of absolutely nothing at all going on except a Omar Tyree book and long shifts at the GAP
4. New Years in NYC
5. More long stretches of haneouse days of absolutely nothing at all going on except long shifts at the GAP.
6. Species Analysis: The Man
7. Spontaneous trip to NYC for Christmas Spirit....Which I in tern lost.
8. The end of the semester.

Yeah, that's about all, I may add later if something comes to mind but that's about it. I'll start as soon as possible but right now its time to hit the sheets my man is waiting for me and I don't like to keep him waiting.




Just playing, just thought Id make it interesting for both you and me.

Peace.

Friday, December 09, 2005

blog blog blog

so much going on these days. Just completed the last week of my last fall semester. It's bitter sweet but more sweet than bitter. (LOL) Chillin like a villan right now, just because I can. I have lots and lots of things I could be doing but Im in a bit of a funk right now.
Im probably just tired. Even though I was finished with everything around 10:30 last night after Ngoma Practice(which was light) I stayed up with the Sorors talking on the phone like middle schoolers. I went to bed around 3:45 and had to get up for work at 9:30, so Im tired.

I had my show last night and it went ok. Thanks to everyone who sent me well wishes. My sweet sorors bought me pink tea roses which are on my desk right now. Thanks girls, you all always come through just when I need you!

I dont have much left. An extra credit paper for Group Comm., a final paper for Post Soul, and a entrance presentation of my line for Honors. Thesis. Basically I'll be chilling on campus ultra hard. Getting little things done and relaxing the way life should allow.

I cant wait to get to New York. Im still deciding when Im gonna go but Im going just to be up there for the Christmas season. Chill with my NY buddy and see my fam. I think I wanna go see the Color Purple on Broadway and the tree.

Done for now, I wanna take a nap before work.
lol
peace

Tuesday, December 06, 2005

Interesting

"Be very careful if you make a woman cry, because God counts her tears. The woman came out of a man's rib. Not from his feet to be walked on. Not from his head to be superior, but from the side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved."

Thursday, December 01, 2005

December 1, 2005


Gosh, Lots going on. Too much, way tooooooooo much.

My Christmas Tree is up (notice how I capitalize). I have to say, shes grand. Danielle and I went Tuesday to Target to get them. We planned on getting real ones but got extravagent with the decorations and figured a reusable tree for the same price was better. Espesh since we could use them next year for our apartment :) Sooooo, my tree is super cute as planned! Pearl garland, lights, and mini pink candy canes(sour patch flavored-my fav!) I treated myself to the big 27 piece box of Ferrero Rocher, Im exercising control with them though, I've only eaten the top layer. Snaps for me!
I decided that it would be an Advent Tree, so I would get myself a few gifts and wrap them up. Each week I would open one and enjoy it! Great idea, I know. I'll keep you posted on what gifts I get from myself.

I have to remember to blog about the kids I babysitt. I babysitt 4 little kids and each week could be an episode of a reality tv series. For example....
(Setting: Me at the sink washing dishes after dinner)
Elizabeth (4 year old girl): Cassandra.
Me: Yes Elizabeth
Elizabeth: Why is your skin so dark?
Me: Because I am black.
Kate(6 years old girl): Your not BLACK like my shoe
Elizabeth: No, her skin is dark brown, its not black

(Setting: Me at the dinner table while the twins eat their snack)
Elizabeth: Cassandra. Is your hair straight today?
(I guess she couldnt tell)
Me: Yes
Elizabeth: Well, you can make your hair straight like mine, but you cant make your skin light like mine!
Me: No Elizabeth, I cant.

(Setting: Me in the kitchen cooking dinner)
Elizabeth: Why is your skin so dark?
Hannah(4 year old girl, twin of Elizabeth) Is your mothers skin dark?
Me: Yes, it is. It would have to be in order for me to be black.
Elizabeth: Your mother must live in a place close to the equator.
Me: Yes, she is from a place close to the equator.

All seperate days might I add. They seem to have lots of questions about blackness and I find it a little funny. Anyway, I'll have to blog about them at some point. The 9 year old is the most fun, I'll fill yall in soon.

My show is in less than a week. Im nervous. I hope it comes of well. Say a prayer for me please .

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OK. Lets keep it moving

I am an employee of the GAP Inc. May I help you???
I enjoy it, the work is pretty easy and the people are mostly cool. A few biotches, but my boss is super sweet and always looks out. I love being at the mall all the time. Im spending a little much these days but Im also working mad hours so hopefully I'll still be in the black when I remember to balance the books. I have to get better at things like this. I went to renew my cell phone plan and the lady asked me how many minutes I use. I had no clue. I dont count....I just talk. She asked me how much I text message. I had no clue. I dont count.....I just text. I need to get that together before I graduate. Its not very grown womanish of me. I'll get it together.


AKA Party Tomorrow :) Dont know what Im wearing yet but you should come if your in the RIC!!!




Yeah, Im pubbing on my blog.


Have a good night. Of course I have work to do... whatever.
BTW I got a B+ on my Post Soul Paper entitled RIP Bling Bling. Snaps for ME :)

Night